ENERGY IN MOTION
Grief is an energy that works through our bodies.
We have many different energies and systems acting simultaneously within this sack of skin that we lovingly refer to as the body. On top of this we have experiences as we work through life. Each affected by stuff that we categorise as either good or bad. We base our reactions on the level of indifference we may feel. So with so much going on, it isn’t a surprise that we will respond to different situations in different ways.
This is why grief, although universal, is so splendidly unique to each person and requires a level of awareness within self and society.
The human desire is to feel happy emotions all of the time because they feel nice. These energies link to happy experiences and although we do experience them whilst grieving we don’t associate with them as readily when we are going through the grieving process.
Moreover, we are often led to believe that we can’t experience episodes of happiness or joy at this time. The expression of such energies may be viewed as seemingly callous or insensitive. We can use these emotions though, as well as sadness, rage and fear. We can use them to OVERSTAND who we are. Listening to the body is the key and when our emotions speak we must honour and respect them.
The display of our lower emotions is not seen as a strength within the office environment, but what came first? Your emotions or the job? If you don’t honour your body, there is no job.
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EXPRESSION OF GRIEF
When we are navigating our grief, we may feel it necessary to suppress our emotions. This has become a natural thing to do because we live in societies that thrive on action and ability. If we are unable to rouse ourselves to pursue social activities, such as work or entertainment, we are soon left with isolation and this can lead to both physical and psychological ailments.
Our bodies speak to us all of the time. It is easy to override the body and push on but that doesn’t come without some push back at some point.
My personal belief is that sickness is the result of grief somewhere along the line that was not acknowledged, discussed or healed; it remains unresolved. Such grief is the result of a traumatic event, big or small. We don’t just experience grief when someone dies, we grieve over many experiences throughout our life and we pick up our traumas along the way. As children our trauma’s are easily brushed off by our adults who may insist we toughen up… but they do leave their mark.
So when we find ourselves struggling with our mental or physical health we may seek solutions in places that are not invested in finding the root of our ills… rather seeking ways to further mask the symptoms of that root cause.
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OPENING UP TO GRIEF
This can be such a painful thing to do.
When someone we love dies, we feel physical pain in our bodies, this is the body’s way of telling us that we have loved deeply and lost something precious to us. When we love, we do so with the cells of our bodies, our very being is aligned to the energy of love and often we don’t realise just how much we love someone until they are gone.
Many of us have been taught that the expression of our sorrow over a period of time is a sign of weakness. Sure be sad, but in your own time, out of the way and quietly. Let’s not dwell and let’s not burden others.
Look around at the state of our society… is this culture of denial working? No! The statistics for suicide are off the chain and the true amount of people dying for sicknesses that are impacted by grief are innumerable… and spark yet more experiences of grief.
If we are all going to die some day, can’t we do so in a better way?
Does it have to be such a dour experience resulting from misery?
Could we possibly extend our life experience by healing our past woes?
Can’t we just talk about our fears so that we can live past the worry of their realisation?
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HAND IT OVER
If you have lost a loved one. It doesn’t matter when. If you need to speak about your loss and the ways in which it might be blocking your life experience, talk about it. We are here for too long to be living in heartfelt pain and too short to be restricted by such pain, fear or stress.
I realised that I hadn’t experienced anything in my life that no one else had ever encountered. What was different was the ways that my experience had been handled by others. I only found new ways to cope once I spoke openly about my experiences.
We can only be supported if we speak about our experiences. For example, if we are at work and suffering in silence, how can we access the support that may be in place to help. Likewise, how can anyone know what you might need if you don’t open up. We don’t always know what it is we need, but someone somewhere does and everyone knows someone.
Likewise, those we work with are unlikely to be in tune with their psychic abilities right now, so a nudge is often needed so that strategies can be implemented or created for better working environments for all.
That is strength, it’s not found in silence anymore.