It’s All In Your Head
A lot of our worries, fears and troubles are rooted in ancestral woes that were never cleared. They manifest today so that we will heal the pains of our bloodlines. This is the work, it’s hard and different for everybody, but well worth the effort. Be true to your self first and foremost.
Spiritual Toolkit
We are often led away from our spiritual inclinations. Typically we are made to feel as though hearing the voices of our guides, ancestors or ‘god’ is a sign of madness and that our innate tools are a complete folly. You are unique and so wonderfully made, let’s take a closer look at how great you really are.
Spiritually Freestylin
I often work with clients on a Monday morning before my show at 2pm. This week if found myself limited for time as as I hadn’t prepared anything to speak about I decided to just see what happens. Personally I feel as though I am just ranting or rambling but apparently I am making sense, see for yourself.
Introducing: Sweet Release Botanical Plant Medicine
This infusion of natural ingredients is designed to ease the symptoms often related to the Dark Night of the Soul and Generational Trauma, Grief and Loss. This is the work, spiritual, emotional, psychological and physical, join us on the retreat to see how a Sweet Release could provide clarity and personal insight over your life.
Ancestors Return
Everyday we witness the return of our Ancestors, but the notion of their reincarnating is such a strange concept that we fail to recognise their genius and leave them unsupported and without hope.
Community & Spirit – What’s the connection?
Originally communities were the central point of a persons life. Within the community they had love and support, guidance and mentoring. A sick person was the result of a sick community and the root of sickness is always the result of a spiritual break that manifests in the physical.
Introducing: KingLion
This conversation was pure fire, we speak honestly and from the heart.
They Loved Lucy
The story of Lucy Letby is a classic example of White Privilege at play. As an English Rose, no one could quite reckon that she would be able to kill the babies placed trustingly in her care.
A Cleopatra Conversation
Cleopatra ended her life by suicide. We discuss different slants on suicide and the circumstances under which it has been viewed as a valiant release in the past.
A Mary Seacole Conversation
Many times through the stories of time, the distortions have us admiring the wrong people and demonizing the good ones. It might be a good time to ask, why does fear actually come from?
Feeling Good: Grief
Catching Up With Aama From Tree Circle Ceremonies
It’s always a pleasure chatting with Aama Sade, she is a fellow ceremonialist with a Celebrant Training course and so much more to offer. Our discussion covers many helpful aspects associated with death.
Introducing Peter from Goodings Funeral Services
Peter inherited the family funeral business and has continued the great example left by his father-in-law, Hugh Goodings. Join our conversation as we discuss the industry and aspects of this important work.
Cleopatra – The Secret of Life & Death
History and historic novelists tell us that there have been times when people have chosen to end their lives rather than endure terrible consequences. Let’s take a deeper look into this.
Introducing Robin of Procession Plumes
Procession Plumes provide an extra something to every funeral by way of feathered plumes. These outstanding plumes bring a sense of importance, quality and elegance to every funeral procession.
Introducing Maxine of Bronze Ash Funeral Services
Maxine is an independent funeral director and our conversation will leave you re-thinking death, behaviour and the systems in place that govern how we manage our funerals and experiences.
Decolonising Grief
Grief is universal, we all experience grief throughout our lives and for so many reasons. However we all grieve in different ways that are not always acknowledged by those around us or tasked with guiding us.
Decolonising Funerals
In some countries and cultures, one’s death is regarded a sacred transition. In the past it has been celebrated. Now we mourn, but to who’s standard?
Is Our Health and Death Colonised?
Let’s really think about this. Regardless of where you originate from, there are certain processes that have been regarded as the only way to a ‘good’ life or a ‘good’ death. What if there are other ways?
Beyond Death
Many people wonder what actually awaits us when we die. Edison and I discuss this in detail and discover there is so much more to life and death than we may have first thought…
Introducing the Grief Wheel
There is so much more to grief. Have a look at this video and consider the unspoken elements directly affected when someone we dearly love passes away.
Defining Grief, Mourning & Bereavement
Let’s talk about grief from the perspective of someone of the ‘African’/Caribbean Diaspora. We’re discussing Generational Grief & the Allostatic Load, following definitions of mourning and bereavement.
Death… What is it?
It was my pleasure to introduce the Spiritual Adviser Edison to the platform to discuss what death is. Beforehand and rather unprepared, I tackled the question myself… Edison joins at around 59 minutes in.
The books My Life’s Tapestry & Tapestries of Grief explained
Very proud of the resources I am creating through my work as a Death Care Practitioner. My Life’s Tapestry came first as an aid helping individuals and families prepare for death. Quickly followed by Tapestries of Grief, defining grief and discussing important topics for your consideration.
Dipism meets Passion Radio – Introducing D.I.P.ism & FACFO
As a Reggae DJ it has been a nail biting adjustment to talk about death on Passion Radio. This week I am introducing my businesses D.I.P.ism (Death in Practice) and FACFO – The Federation of African & Caribbean Funeral Operatives.
How to talk with children about death
It was a pleasure to discuss with Funeral Director Poppy Marsden, Dannielle and Pia about the ways in which we can talk with our children about death. Check out YouTube Poppy’s for the full interview.
What are we gonna say?
Have you ever wondered what people will say about you after you have gone? You need wonder no more, write your own eulogy…
Decolonising Death N Grief
There are so many holes in the death and grief experienced if you are not in alignment with your authentic self. This is the situation many find themselves in when they are removed from their origins.
We really need to talk about this!
Not talking about dying, death and grief in advance is a common mistake that is only realised after the death of a loved one. Let’s get in front of death because it doesn’t hang about.
ONE IN 4094
I can not begin to explain how important this video is to me. I hope you find the relevance of the content for your life. Remember you are unquestionably beautiful, and your worries and stresses may not be yours. You are a crucial part of The Tapestry.
THE MAIN ISSUE
Is that there is never a good time!
ARE YOU SUPPORTED
What policies are in place for your bereavement in the workplace? Such matters need to be considered in advance because we seldom know in advance when we or someone love is going to die.
GRIEF AFFECTS EVERYTHING
When we are experiencing loss, there is no way of determining how this would affect or working lives. Some employers would rather we leave our grief at the door but it is healthy or wise?
SECONDARY LOSSES
There is so much more that is lost when someone we love dies. The people we love and live with bring so much more to our lives than just physical bodies. In general, we must pay more attention when we are aware of the bereavement of another.
GRIEF IN THE WORKPLACE
I am particularly interested in the ways that grief is handled in the workplace. There doesn’t seem to be much sympathy in place when money has to be made.
WORKING WITH LOVE
I had the privilege of conducting Charlottes Home Going Service, here is just a small snippet of a ceremony that was fit for a Queen.
PLANNING AHEAD
This conversation between Angie Martinez and Mary J Blige is so insightful. There comes a time when we all have to face this shit head on. I created My Life’s Tapestry to make it easier for people to plan ahead for the inevitable.
DEATH ETTIQUETTE
This conversation between Angie Martinez and Lauren London was so insightful. This was my best bit. I am doing my best to educate people in advance of dying, death and grief. However I think these are topics that you only really care to know once they are staring you in the face…
I’M BACK!
Following the demise of my Samsung, I find myself on an Iphone, But this takes some time to get used to. Give me a minute.
PLANNED OBSOLESCENCE
Our losses come in many ways, when my phone died I had to take a good look at myself. I had formed an attachment to it and although I speak about dying, death and grief regularly… I was stumped. Planned obsolescence has caught up with me.
WHAT HAPPENS IN THE MIDDLE?
Between these states we call life and death, there are experiences that can throw us in all directions. Both states have a way of throwing up the weird, scary and wonderful. Let’s plan in advance… www.dipism.com #powerofattorney #dipism
ANOTHER DID YOU KNOW
With planning you can have whatever you want when you want. The issue is often that we don’t know what we want, nor do we know how to get it. We may think our wishes are unreasonable but there is a valid reason for every request! I work to educate people on their rights, dead or alive. Awareness of the extent of your remit gives you opportunity to explore your surroundings and experience greater depths of your life. contact me here or at www.dipism.com for a chat.
YOU ARE ALIVE!
Until you take your last breath you are alive. Let’s live!
CHOOSE YOUR CELEBRANT
Don’t let others dictate your experiences.
FROM GRIEF TO RAGE
Grief and rage often go hand in hand. For some their rage is channelled into creating new ways forward. For many, that rage gets trapped within and creates little ticking time bombs that can cause poor mental or physical health for not only ourselves but those we care about around us.
WOULD YOU, COULD YOU?
The notion of passing away at home was once a normality in our communities. If we have been told that there is nothing more that can be done for yourself or your loved one, consider going home. When advanced planning has been pre-scribed, completing the death transition from home can be a cathartic experience for all present; away from others who suffer Ill health in an artificial environment where you are ruled by the clock and other limiting conditions… Give it some thought. Purchase My Life’s Tapestry and make your wishes clear and known
DID YOU KNOW?
You only have to ask, the worst you can ever hear back is no… If that’s the case, contact me!
GIVE THANKS FRIDAY
If you get to the finish line and all you have lost is your hair, be happy. Our amazing bodies are constantly adjusting and adapting so that we might enjoy more life.
LIVE YOUR LIFE
It is so easy to get side tracked, feel down and lose motivation. This video was for me more than everyone else. Let’s just keep going, every little makes a change somewhere along the line.
SPEAKING ILL OF THE DEAD
‘They’ say you should never speak ill of the dead… But what if you have been wronged? What are you supposed to do with your pain? Often times our lives are curtailed because we are unable to vocalise the wrongs that have been committed against us. Speak your truth!
SECONDARY GAINS
One thing that is abundantly clear about the loss of a loved one is that you can’t grieve in isolation of life. When someone you love passes away, it affects every part of your life because in life they were such a big part of your overall experience.
My LIFES TAPESTRY
This workbook has undergone many changes. It is finally where I want it. Very different to a lot of the copies I have sent out or sold. Now in it’s second edition.
YOU ARE SO WONDERFULY MADE
We spend a lot of time scrutinizing our bodies. How about we love them and embrace their difference whilst they quietly work away.
FREESTYLE THURSDAY
Today I am speaking about my books: My Life’s Tapestry, an end of life guide that incorporates the whole life and serves as an aid for instruction about your care and treatment and Tapestries of Grief a text book that defines grief and opens the door to conversations about dying, death, grief and social issues. Both are in their second edition all creases ironed out.
WHY IS OUR DEATH TABOO?
Life can get so complicated when someone dies. I often notice that the death of a family member can spark social, emotional, economic and perhaps completely unnecessary race related trauma, when dealing with the administrators of institutions through the making of necessary arrangements and coming to terms with grief.
THE GAME OF LIFE…?
It’s Dying Matters week and everyone is coming together to talk about dying, death and grief… for just one week… but people die every day… 🤔 Should we not be a little more progressive about this socially shunned topic. There is so much fear and anxiety around notions of death, but what if we have got it all wrong…
GRIEF, STRESS & THE BODY
We don’t always know when we are stressed nor do we recognise the affect it can have on our bodies. A lot of the illness we experience actually develops from an emotional pain that has not been healed. Via our DNA we may have weaker areas within our bodies that when hit with a stress or trauma, trigger the physical manifestation of sickness. Just saying…
CORRECTION: LOUISE HAY – YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE. 
GRIEF & FAMILY LIFE
It is not always easy to express our grief. There is often so much more to the pain we feel than the initial grief we carry. Our upbringing can affect the grief experience because there are often hurts or truths that have never been acknowledged or explained; healed or challenged. Such hurts are carried down through the generations. Relationships are affected and when a loved one passes those answers often go to the grave too.
GRIEF, IT’S NATURAL
We are all so wonderfully made. Everything we need is within us and the emotions of our grief are tools that our bodies use to find a balance for our healing. Crying out our pain does lessen it, we may be left feeling drowsy after a good cry (or scream) but after a nap we can find it easier to carry on. In fact, crying is a naturally healthy way to release the endorphins and internal sorrow that puts a stress on our organs. When we hold it all in we can expose ourselves to sickness that over a period of time, can compromise our bodies. However your body deals with your grief is normal and necessary. It is the best technology we have. Let it do its thing.
LIFE
LIVE IT
Let’s just take some time to marvel over this journey we call life. It is often over before we realise it has begun. We have all achieved so much and whether we know it or not, we make a difference every day to ourselves and others. Take time today to consider yourself an amazing being, because once we pass on to our next journey…
MORBID MONDAY? Anyone…?
Sometimes you have to laugh, you might be planning something and it happens but not in the way you thought it would. Plan anyway, it might just turn out better!
TIRED N ITCHY
Fridays are now my Alopecia days. Just charting my journey thru baldness and demystifying the stigmas attached. I’ve been bald since 2014 I believe, but I’ve shaved it all off on two previous occasions. Hair n I ain’t friends.
UNDER THE SKIN
Being bald isn’t as easy as it looks. There are some things that need to be considered before shaving it off, like how quickly will it grow back, do you still need to maintain your scalp, how do you cope with changes of weather… With me what you see is what you get, so as I continue with my grief series, I will speak openly and honestly on my journey with Alopecia at least once a week.
WHAT’S YOUR DEATH STORY?
Everyone has one… and yet the subject is taboo, considered dark and too morbid for a conversation around children or afternoon tea. We need to normalise such conversations so that we are better prepared for the inevitable.
EMOTIONAL TABOOS
We are often led to believe our emotions and feelings are our failures and so we seek to keep them hidden. We want to be seen to fit in and not cause a stir. Those who do publicly express themselves are deemed to be on a spectrum that measures their ability to conform. Grrrrr…When we suppress our grief and the emotions it stirs within, it will stay inside and eat us out!