During a recent morning walk I found myself in a conversation with a father who had experienced a close bereavement. We really hadn’t spoken previously however the conversation flowed easily. After my inquiry about the levels of support offered by members of his community, the gentleman lamented with sigh and replied,
“I think it’s different… because I’m a man”.
I was taken aback but not surprised. I was caught on the hop because although I have read, written about and researched bereavement, I had found perspectives predominantly from female participants. Such data highlighted the deep well of a hollow echo…
We are lacking the voice of the male experiencing bereavement, especially within the African-Caribbean community.
There are many reasons why this is the case. Many of which will not be discussed on this forum due to cultural considerations. However, toxic social taboos especially those pertaining to all men, do nothing for the male psyche and without appropriate outlets for release, pent up emotions and energies manifest in physical and psychological imbalance within the body.
At D.I.P.ism we endeavour to provide space for bereaved males, understanding that bereavement takes on many forms and is often concealed by many layers. Not being socially permitted to cry or show emotion in order to portray a strong or masculine demeanor is akin to many health issues that are experienced by men.
Hypnotherapy is the key!
Communicating with the sub-conscious mind to unlock hidden grief is one of the most powerful ways to experience relief from internal disharmony. It is often something buried deep within that can serve as the catalyst for behaviours that manifest disharmony within the home or social environment.
Coming to terms with any loss, even if it occurred many years ago, is a necessary endeavour that can be supported through group work with like minded participants. This is why D.I.P.ism encourage men only groups that deal with specific issues such as guilt or anger. Often, when looking from a different perspective, we find that such feelings can be founded upon past situations that have been misinterpreted and have then created anxieties and fears that could have been avoided. Such emotions can have a negative affect on our health and wellbeing if left to develop… So let’s do this now!